The shared calendar
Pick-up tomorrow is 3.30pm, straight after school. Same as last week, jam or no jam. Both of you are reading the same line.
Malaysia's co-parenting app
Two homes now. Your child's week can still feel steady.
A small, quiet app for parents in Malaysia who share a child across two homes. School runs, term breaks, tuition fees, festive weeks.
Free, and it stays free.
For both parents, not just whoever signs up first. No ads, no selling your data, no bill later.
The home screen
What it does, day to day
Three things, said plainly.
The costs
Tuition fees, school shoes, the visit to the clinic. Put the receipt in once and the split is worked out for you. Neither of you has to carry a running tally.
The quiet messages
A quiet place to write the thing you need to say, and read it once more before it goes.
“Co-parenting is hard. We can't make that easier. What we can do is make the week clearer.”
Where to start
Short reads for families just starting out.
Practical
The handover bag: five things to pack every time.
A short checklist so the bag is packed the same way, every handover day.
5 min read
First weeksWhat to tell the children, and when.
A gentle way in, for the conversation no parent gets to practise.
7 min read
MethodWhy a stable schedule matters more than the perfect one.
From the Pauline Sam Method: a steady week does more than a clever one.
6 min read
MethodTone over content. The first principle of co-parent communication.
The tone arrives first. The words come after.
8 min read
The thinking
The Pauline Sam Method sits underneath all of it.
Dr. Pauline Sam
MD · psychiatrist · NL
A way of looking at two-home families that keeps the child's emotional safety in the middle, and takes it as read that both parents are trying their best.
Children pick up tension long before anyone says it out loud. In the car, at the school gate, at the dinner table. A steady schedule, handovers they can predict, and calm messages are some of the strongest anchors a two-home life has.
Pauline Sam is a medical doctor and psychiatrist with ten years in practice in the Netherlands. She is dip's clinical consultant, and the method the app is built on is hers.
Two villages
Every child has two villages, not one big shared one.
Each parent has their own people. Their own parents and in-laws, their own helper, their own circle of friends. In many homes here that's a grandmother at the school gate at one o'clock, and the helper starting on dinner. dip respects that. Each parent invites their own village, sets their own permissions, and the two villages never see each other. The only person held by both is the child.
Parent A's village
Invited by Parent AParent A
The full picture
The schedule, the costs, the conversation with Parent B, and the child's vault.
Grandparents (A's side)
The days they fetch
Sees: the days they're fetching. Doesn't see: anything inside Parent B's home.
Helper at A's home
Today
Sees: who's fetching today, what goes into the bag, any allergies. Doesn't see: what the parents write to each other.
Held by both
The child.
When the child is old enough, they get a small space of their own. Somewhere to message grandparents on either side, in a setting both parents have agreed on together.
Safe by design
Parent B's village
Invited by Parent BParent B
The full picture
The schedule, the costs, the conversation with Parent A, and the child's vault.
Grandparents (B's side)
The days they fetch
Sees: the days they're fetching. Doesn't see: anything inside Parent A's home.
Helper at B's home
Today
Sees: who's fetching today, what goes into the bag, any allergies. Doesn't see: what the parents write to each other.
Each parent runs their own village. Invite someone, change what they can see, or remove them, one tap, your side only. The two villages stay separate. The child stays in the middle.
The vault
What goes into dip stays in dip.
Every child has a vault. One place holding the schedule changes, the handover notes, the receipts, what the clinic said, the photo of the exercise book left at the wrong house on a Sunday night. Both parents look at the same vault. Once something is written, it stays. Nothing in the record can be quietly removed. Edits leave a visible trail.
One per child
Each child has one vault. Both homes look at the same one, never a copy of a copy.
Nothing deletes
Messages, costs, handover notes, schedule swaps. Once they're in, they stay. Nothing gets quietly rewritten later.
Edits leave a trail
Change a date or correct a number, and both versions stay visible. The record shows what it was, and what it is now.
Yours, not ours
The vault belongs to your family. We don't sell it, mine it, or pass it to anyone. You can export all of it, whenever you want.
Most weeks the vault is simply a quieter way to remember. If a family lawyer or mediator ever comes into it, it's the calmest record either of you has.
Why each piece exists
It's not what dip stores. It's what keeps the parenting steady.
Most apps would call these features. We don't. Each one is a small bet on what a two-home week actually asks for. Pick one and see why it's in the app.
Module · Homework
Why homework belongs in an app about separation.
The exercise book left at the other house is a small thing. It's also where a lot of arguments between separated parents begin.
Homework is in dip for a quiet reason, not a productive one. The child's school week stops being something the parents have to sort out between them. The book is at one home. The other home knows. Tomorrow's spelling list and Thursday's tuition sit in the same place both parents look.
Nobody has to be the parent who forgot. Nobody has to be the parent who points it out. The week just carries on.
In a real week
- ●Both parents read the same week. No more "nobody told me."
- ●Written down once. Both homes have it.
- ●The tuition teacher sees the session brief, nothing else.
- ●Worksheets and reading books follow the child, not one parent's memory.
Free for both parents, and it stays that way. Not a trial, not a first month. No ads. We don't sell your data. No catch.
Listen
The dip podcast.
Real conversations about co-parenting. What helps, what doesn't, and what the research actually says.
Open on Spotify
Read
The Steady Week book series.
The calm, predictable week dip is built on, in print. One book for each stage of childhood, plus one for you and one for grandparents. By Remy Anker, edited by Dr. Pauline Sam.
How dip keeps going
dip stays free. A coffee helps us keep it that way.
We're a tiny team with no investors, which is why there are no ads and we never sell your data. If dip made this month a little easier and you're able to, the price of a coffee keeps us going. Can't right now? That's okay. Nothing changes, and we'll never cut anyone off.
Co-parenting apps usually cost money. dip doesn't.
OurFamilyWizard$12.99 a month, per parent
TalkingParents$9.99 a month, per parent
dip: free for both parents, always☕
Buy us a coffee
A coffee where you are is about $5.
The blueprint is where it starts.
Build your family blueprintFourteen questions. About seven minutes.